Are You Still Playing the Starring Role in a Life That Was Built by a Version of You That’s Long Gone?

Let’s get real for a minute. Are you still playing a role in your life that was written by someone who doesn’t even exist anymore? You know, that version of you who had a set of beliefs, habits, and goals that maybe used to fit, but now? Not so much. It’s like you’re still starring in a movie with a script that’s outdated and just not vibing with who you are anymore. Time to update, my friend.

Here’s the thing—being authentic isn’t just about saying “I’m authentic” or posting pictures of your “true self” on Instagram. It’s when your insides match your outsides. It’s when your beliefs, your actions, and your mindset all align with the person you’ve become—or are becoming. Because if you’re still acting out the part of someone who’s no longer you, guess what? It’s like trying to run an iPhone on iOS 1.0. It’s slow, outdated, and quite frankly, it’s a little embarrassing.

Think about it: When was the last time you updated your phone? If you’re anything like me, probably way too long ago. You know the pop-up—”Hey, you have an update pending.” And we all know how easy it is to click “remind me later,” and before you know it, your phone is acting up, apps crash, and the battery drains faster than a teenager on TikTok. You wouldn’t keep using that old software, right? So why are we still living with outdated beliefs, habits, and expectations that no longer align with who we are today?

I’ll share a personal story. For years, I held on to this image of being the “high achiever” – the one who always crushed it, who was always on, always pushing. I mean, that was the script I had written for myself, right? But the reality was, I was burned out, stressed out, and honestly, not enjoying life at all. My insides—my beliefs and my energy—were totally out of alignment with what I was projecting on the outside. It was like trying to run my life on a 2010 version of my own personal operating system. Nothing was working. And then it hit me: I needed an upgrade.

Just like your iPhone doesn’t stay functional without those software updates, neither do we. We need to refresh our “software”—our habits, our beliefs, and the way we approach life. It’s about ditching the outdated thought patterns that no longer serve us and making room for new ones that actually fit who we are now. Your life isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it kind of deal. It’s constantly evolving.

So, let’s ask the tough question: Are you living authentically? Are your actions today reflecting the person you are right now, or are you still stuck playing the part of someone who’s been gone for years? Are your beliefs and your habits working for you—or are you still clinging to that old software that’s just not cutting it anymore?

Here’s the bottom line: You’re not a flip phone anymore. It’s time for an update. Don’t let yourself be stuck running on old code. You deserve a life that aligns with who you are now.

To get you thinking more deeply about this very thing, I have created 3 questions for you to consider. I encourage you to take some time and reflect on the following questions:

What outdated beliefs or habits am I still holding onto that no longer align with the person I’ve become?

How can I update my “software” to reflect the authentic version of myself, and what changes would that require in my daily actions?

In what areas of my life am I still playing a role that was created by an older version of me, and what would it look like if I started living from my current truth?

So, go ahead—hit that “update now” button. Your new, upgraded self is waiting for you.